Whether you’re 18, 21, 30, or 50 – there will probably come a time in your life when you decide to move out of home and go it alone in the big wide world. Regardless of when it happens, or why, you’ll probably feel the same excitement and nerves in equal measure.
Here are some tips to help you fly out of the nest and not flee back again just as fast.
Consider your decision to move
There are many reasons to move out – maybe it’s your decision, maybe it is someone else’s, maybe it is necessity, maybe it is just time.
No matter why you’re moving on think about it calmly. Are you ready to live independently? What are your options?
And if it is your decision, are you moving out for the right reasons? Don’t make a rash decision that could see you needing to move back home again soon, and make sure you consider all the avenues available to you.
Find the right place
Whether you’re buying, sharing or renting, you’ll need to work out what kind of property best suits you and your lifestyle.
Ask yourself some serious questions. Can you live alone or is a flat share the best option? Will you be happy in a grungy share house or is a slick inner city pad more your style? What can you actually afford? And where?
If you’re testing the waters, maybe a room in a share house rather than taking the lease in your own name, is best to start with.
Start your search online, but don’t stop there: you can’t tell everything from photos, so make sure you attend several open houses to get a sense of what your budget really buys you.
And if you’re looking for someone to live with, check out tips for finding the perfect flatmate.
Leaving home is expensive, and it doesn’t take long for bad budgeting to lead to financial hardship, so you need to plan ahead.
A recent study found some young Australians were going without food and borrowing money to survive when they moved out of home. Avoid this situation by calculating your known monthly income then planning a monthly budget for food, bills, transport, entertainment and extras. Always pay any bills and rent on time to avoid a bad credit rating. If you want to buy a home later on, someone will be looking at how you managed financially.
Don’t forget that when setting up or moving house, there are also establishment fees such as a rental bond (usually a month’s rent in advance), phone, cable TV, gas, electricity or internet connection fees, as well as the set up costs of furnishing rooms or equipping a kitchen.
It’s also smart to take out home contents insurance, just in case.
No matter how much, or how little money you have, managing your money well is the best foundation to living independently and this will have flow on effects to all aspects of your life.
Moving out gives you independence, freedom and adventure, but it all comes with added responsibilities.
Without sounding like mum and dad, try to keep on top of the chores like cleaning, cooking, laundry, and taking the bins out. You don’t want to fall into the cliché of being a typical first time out of home slob!
Look after yourself: if you’re used to having meals cooked for you at home make sure you get into a rhythm of cooking yourself, rather than skipping meals or relying on take away every night (that’ll eat into your budget too).
Communication is the key to any relationship and it is no different for your flatmates or partner (assuming you are not living alone).
Avoid conflict by setting ground rules, being open and respecting others’ opinions, including any opinions they have on the way you live.
Living independently for the first time, you’ll face your share of surprises, including the challenges of living with others. It’s common for this to make people a bit nervous or unsettled. Remember you’re not alone, and work on expressing how you’re feeling to avoid misunderstandings.
Hide a spare key
There’s nothing worse than the surprise of an after-hours call out fee for a locksmith, so give someone you trust a spare key to your house. And no, don’t hide it in the garden.
Keep in touch
No matter how old you are, if it’s your first time out of home your parents or guardians will probably miss you. Give them a call from time to time or go home for a meal! Just try not to land on the doorstep with the washing too often.
If you’re thinking about moving out, see if you can trial it for a while to test your skills at budgeting and housework. Perhaps you could stay with a friend. Or get a short term rental for a few months.
Another idea is to get your parents to let you ‘run the house’ for a month or two, and be responsible for as much as you practically can.
This will give you a better idea of what’s involved, and may give them a chance to put their feet up.
If you don’t do your own washing, now’s the time to start. Make sure you can do all the things you’ll need to do when you step out.
Ask for help
Moving out for the first time can be daunting, and there’s a lot to get on top of. Don’t be too proud to ask for help if you find yourself under financial or emotional stress or if you have any other kind of trouble.
While your parents might be there for you, not everyone who moves out can move back home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble, so make sure you’re familiar with the community or government organisations that can lend a hand. These vary depending on which location you’re in, but include:
- Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 551 800
- Lifeline 13 11 44
- Home Ground Services 1800 048 325
- Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
- Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
If you need to move out but can’t afford a place of your own you can contact your local housing authority to see if there’s any financial assistance they can offer:
- ACT – Housing and Community Services 13 34 27
- NSW – Housing NSW 1300 468 746
- Northern Territory – Territory Housing
- Queensland – Housing and Homelessness Services 1300 880 882
- South Australia – Department for Communities and Social Inclusion (DCSI) 08-8226 8800
- Tasmania – Housing Tasmania (Department of Health and Human Services 1300 135 513; TTY users phone 133 677 then ask for 1300 13 55 13)
- Victoria – Office of Housing 1300 650 172
- Western Australia – Department of Housing 1800 093 325
Don’t leave it too late to seek professional advice if you feel things getting on top of you.
Did you know?
Figures from the Australian Bureau of Statistics show that in 2006, almost one in four people aged 20–34 years were living at home with their parents, compared with 19% in 1986.
The proportion of young women living at home had increased from 13% to 18%, and young men were more likely than young women to live with their parents.
By age 28, around 94% of people had moved out of home (at least for a while) and by 34, that figure was close to 97%.
It pays to be realistic though: the chance of returning to mum and dad at least once before turning 35 is almost one in two (46%), with most returners lasting only one to two years out of home before going back.
Article by Emma Sorensen